The previous linked blog from herding chickens, in her about me section, she talks about attachment challenges stating that they 'are the hardest type of challenges to explain to anyone outside the home.' Many adoptive parents agree with this and can frequently come up with examples: "He is not like that in school", "She is such a calm girl", "He gets on well in school and works quietly understanding what he is doing" ... (Please comment with others you have heard.) We started this page after similar 'unhelpful' comments from our children's school which then led to the questioning about our parenting. Whilst all this was going on our children where suffering and clearly showing this at home where they felt safe. In turn, at times we questioned ourselves as to whether the child in school was the true child and the one at home is the one we created.
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